Why not Misr?

Why the country Egypt is not called Misr as the proper name? As in Arabic is Misr.

Chinese Proverb

'When someone shares something of value with you and you benefit from it, you have a moral obligation to share it with others'

Some very Good and Very bad things

The most destructive habit………........................Worry
The greatest Joy.................................................Giving
The greatest loss............................Loss of self-respect
The most satisfying work......................Helping others
The ugliest personality trait........................Selfishness
The most endangered species..........Dedicated leaders
Our greatest natural resource....................Our youth
The greatest 'shot in the arm'.............Encouragement
The greatest problem to overcome….....................Fear
The most effective sleeping pill............Peace of mind
The most crippling failure disease...............Excuses
The most powerful force in life.........................Love
The most dangerous pariah.....................A gossiper
The world's most incredible computer......The brain
The worst thing to be without....................Hope
The deadliest weapon........................The tongue
The two most power-filled words............'I Can'
The greatest asset......................................Faith
The most worthless emotion..................Self-pity
The most beautiful attire.......................SMILE!
The most prized possession..................Integrity
The most powerful channel of communication......Prayer
The most contagious spirit..................Enthusiasm
The most important thing in life..................GOD.

BA staff to strike over Christmas

BA staff to strike over Christmas: "

Cabin crew announced the strike dates at a highly charged meeting of Unite union members at Sandown racecourse this afternoon

The holiday plans of nearly 1 million British Airways passengers have been thrown into chaos after cabin crew voted for a 12-day strike over Christmas and the new year.

The walkout by 12,500 cabin crew between 22 December and 2 January will ground Heathrow airport's largest carrier and will spark a scramble for tickets on rival airlines as passengers are forced to find alternative means of completing their journeys.

Cabin crew announced the strike dates at a highly charged meeting of Unite union members at Sandown racecourse this afternoon following a ballot of staff over changes to staff numbers and budgets.

If BA management and Unite representatives fail to reach a compromise agreement over the next week, the walkout will deal a crippling financial and reputational blow to the airline. BA is already on course to lose £600m in the current year after posting a record loss of £401m in the 12 months to March 2009.

However, the biggest blow will be to about 910,000 passengers who were booked to travel with BA on the strike dates, including the days before and after the scheduled strikes when services are also expected to be disrupted. BA expects to carry about 65,000 passengers a day over the festive period. The last serious industrial dispute involving cabin crew, in early 2007, saw BA refund passengers or switch them to services with other airlines if space was available and is estimated to have cost the carrier £80m.

The announcement of strike action came just a few hours after BA released details of a near-doubling of its pension deficit to £3.7bn, up from £1.9bn. Analysts said the pensions black hole – one of the largest pension fund deficits in the private sector – was bigger than expected, although not so high that it would derail the group's planned merger with the Spanish carrier Iberia.

A BA spokeswoman denied that the pension funds announcement was deliberately timed to coincide with the Sandown meeting. 'The pension scheme is not an issue that is part of the ballot. Once we had reached an agreement with the pension trustees, we had to release it to the market.' However, the widened funding gap underlines the loss-making airline's need to return to profitability as soon as possible.

'The airline and trustees will now work together to develop a recovery plan, a process which will involve the company consulting with employees and their trade unions,' BA said.

Douglas McNeill, analyst at Astaire Securities, said the main issue for the airline was whether trustees put further strain on the carrier's balance sheet by demanding an increase in the annual £330m payment that BA pours into the funds. 'This is a precursor to the main event with the trustees about whether cash contributions will have to rise. The company has a fairly strong case because it is on course to lose a lot of money this year. It can argue with a lot of conviction that it is in no position to increase payments in cash terms.'

According to one analyst, a two-day strike would cost the airline £50m, with a 12-day walkout costing the airline about £300m. BA recently raised the amount of accessible cash on its balance sheet to about £2bn but had anticipated using that money to weather the effects of the recession, not a severe bout of industrial action.

• British Airways
• Airline industry
• Christmas and New Year

Dan Milmo

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Cheques to be bounced into history

Cheques to be bounced into history: "

UK banks set to vote tomorrow to phase out 300-year-old tradition of paying by cheque

Do you pay the milkman by cheque? Slip a surprise cheque in a Christmas card to a grandson or granddaughter? Or maybe you simply don't trust direct debits when dealing with gas and electricity companies?

In the future you'll have no choice but to pay electronically, by plastic, or go online if, as expected, Britain's banks vote tomorrow to phase out the tradition dating back more than 300 years of payment by cheque.

Cheques cost up to £1 each to process – and the number written has been falling steadily. As recently as 2002 a typical consumer in Britain was writing 31 cheques a year, but the number fell to 14 by 2008. Big stores such as Marks & Spencer have already stopped taking cheques, and the Payments Council, which sets strategy for UK payments in Britain, says they are now used for fewer than one in 25 purchases.

Scandinavian countries and Ireland have already voted to phase out cheques, and a board meeting of the Payments Council tomorrow afternoon expected to set an 'end date' of 2018 for cheque clearing in Britain.

It wants consumers to switch to cheaper and faster electronic payment processing and says it will use the eight-year transitional period to ensure alternative arrangements are put in place.

'Mapping out how the UK might move to a society where, by 2018, there is no need to use a cheque for any type of payment is no small task,' said council spokeswoman Sandra Quinn. 'Even if the board decides to set a target date, we are clear that we would need to continue to engage with as many other bodies as possible to understand their concerns and requirements. The demise of the cheque in 2018 is only feasible if interim targets are set and met and it can be demonstrated that no one will lose out.'

But the phasing out of cheques has led to intense concern among groups representing senior citizens. Many elderly bank customers are unhappy about online banking, or have sight difficulties and prefer the comfort of using cheques.

Neil Duncan-Jordan, of the National Pensioners Convention, said: 'Using a cheque to settle your financial affairs is extremely important to older pensioners who might struggle in later life with the use of chip and pin. This option is effectively removing choice from a whole section of the population. The representatives of the Payments Council are completely out of touch with the needs of older consumers and need to think again.'

Age Concern and Help the Aged say that 6.4 million over-65s have never used the internet, and the loss of cheques will force older people to keep large amounts of cash at home, leaving them vulnerable to theft and fraud.

Andrew Harrop, head of public policy at the charities, said: 'Many older people rely on cheques as their main form of payment and will be very worried about how they will manage if they are withdrawn.

'Our fear is that setting a date will give the green light to banks and retailers to withdraw cheques even earlier than 2018, as some already have. It is vital that before cheques are phased out, the Payments Council ensures there is a practical, safe, paper-based alternative in place which serves the needs of this group.'

Small businesses point out that, despite the decline, there are still 1.4bn cheques written every year by individuals and businesses to pay bills, traders or family members.

Stephen Alambritis, of the Federation of Small Businesses, said: 'This sends completely the wrong message to the self-employed, small businesses and people who run small clubs and charities.

'We are opposed to the Payments Council dictating this, at the behest of the big banks, when cheques are still hugely popular as a method of payment. We know that students and young adults are using the chequebook less and less, and the banks talk about things such as cheque fraud. But it is terribly wrong to set any date as to when they can no longer be used. They are also an important record of transactions for small businesses.'

But Quinn said that most under-30s now barely use cheques, while the under-20s have barely heard of them.

She added: 'So far, no group consulted has said 2018 is not feasible although all parties recognise that it would be a major challenge to get right and that currently sufficient and accessible alternatives to cheques do not exist for a number of individuals and users.'

The Payments Council board is made up of 16 directors, 12 from the banks and four independents. The independent directors enjoy a power of veto, but are not expected to impose it tomorrow.

• Cheques
• Banking
• Banks and building societies
• Consumer affairs

Patrick Collinson

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Balance Sheet Of Life

Our Birth is our Opening Balance!
Our Death is our Closing Balance!
Our Prejudiced Views are our Liabilities.
Our Creative Ideas are our Assets.
Heart is our Current Asset.
Soul is our Fixed Asset.
Brain is our Fixed Deposit.
Thinking is our Current Account.
Achievements are our Capital.
Character & Morals, our Stock-in-Trade.
Friends are our General Reserves.
Values & Behaviour are our Goodwill.
Love is our Dividend.
Children are our Bonus Issues..
Education is Brands / Patents.
Knowledge is our Investment.
Experience is our Premium Account.
The Aim is to Tally the Balance Sheet Accurately.
The Goal is to get the Best Presented Accounts Award.

365 days

No man / woman is busy in this world all 365 days.

The sky is not going to fall down if you take few days LEAVE and meet your dear ones.

OFFICE WORK IS NOT EVERYTHING IN LIFE and MONEY MAKING IS NOT EVERYTHING IN LIFE.

No more cheese

While I was reading an article in Arabic, titled 'Laziness Hunting Us', about the technology revolution hunting the world to be lazy and resulted avarage of population to be overweight, specailly in USA & the rest of the world are following the same patten.

The result, is unhealthy food, which I remembered no more cheese for me, as I get nosiated.

Attempt

If we don't attempt to find alternative rute to reach our destination, we have never achieved our goal.

Attempting, means not failing.

Life of an Employee

It's true they say that a picture is worth a thousand words.

I don't think there is a better way of explaining our life.

Imagine yourself sitting in the black chair...

Positive Approach

Lessons in Logic

I was born intelligent -

education ruined me.

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Practice makes perfect.....

But nobody's perfect......

so why practice?

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If it's true that we are here to help others,

then what exactly are the others here for?

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Since light travels faster than sound,

people appear bright until you hear them speak.

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How come "abbreviation" is such a long word?

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Money is not everything.

There's Mastercard & Visa.

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One should love animals.

They are so tasty.

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Behind every successful man, there is a woman

And behind every unsuccessful man, there are two.

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Every man should marry.

After all, happiness is not the only thing in life.

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The wise never marry.

and when they marry they become otherwise.

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Success is a relative term.

It brings so many relatives.

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Never put off the work till tomorrow

what you can put off today.

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"Your future depends on your dreams"

So go to sleep

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There should be a better way to start a day

Than waking up every morning

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"Hard work never killed anybody"

But why take the risk

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"Work fascinates me"

I can look at it for hours

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God made relatives;

Thank God we can choose our friends.

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The more you learn, the more you know,

The more you know, the more you forget

The more you forget, the less you know

So.. why learn.

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A bus station is where a bus stops.

A train station is where a train stops.

On my desk, I have a work station.

what more can I say.

Happy birthday Petite

Today is my sister's birthday, I wish her a happy birthday and many happy returns of the day.

Honorary Blogs

I would like to thank the following blogs' / journals' Owners, writers and visitors for visiting my blog through them.

1. www.kishorcariappa.com
2. bloggers4oman.blogspot.com
3. dubaiguy78.blogspot.com
4. www.muscati.com
5. www.osama.ae
6. amjad248.blogspot.com / www.amjad248.com
7. www.beinoman.com
8. beyondnormal.blogspot.com
9. blue-chi.blogspot.com / www.blue-chi.com
10. devilishing.blogspot.com
11. www.saudijeans.org
12. omancommunityblog.blogspot.com
13. oba2005.blogspot.com
14. www.monaeltahawy.com/blog
15. www.serdal.com
16. otheroman.blogspot.com
17. ti3gibsjunkbox.blogspot.com
18. devilishwicked.blogspot.com now known as http://omaniidiot.blogspot.com/
19. muscatconfidential.blogspot.com
20. dailydoseofme.wordpress.com

Not availble any more:

1. secretaboo.blogspot.com
2. art4nabs.blogspot.com
3. m-pac.blogspot.com
4. paradoxicpages.blogspot.com (aka Paradoxic Dymunds)

In Memory of Our Beloved

Yesterday, while I was searching for some information via Google, I came across this link 'In Memory of Our Beloved', a memorial home page of a late co-worker Khaldun Al-Maskiry, who passed away on May 22, 2008.

His death was a shock to everyone who knew him and who didn't know him too. He had a good spirit.

The memorial home page was created by his only sister, sharing her and others moments with him. That what I call it true sibling's love.

Allah Yehamu.

In a holiday mood

The Eid is over, majority of the population are in holiday mood exept the 'private sector' employees.

Is it because the country is trying to utilize the 'One day' to gain revenue to pay off their debts in time, and not to suffer like Dubai, which has dragged the rest of UAE's states (a.k.a Emirates) mainly Abu Dhabi, in a big hole in the name of 'My Vision'.

The Dubai Ruller didn't marry his off-spring to Abu Dhabi's royal family without stratigic plan, it is to bell him out for time like this, will they?

Don't break the elastic!

Read to the end, you will laugh just picturing it happening.
I love the thoughts she lives by!!!
I didn't break the elastic...


Don't break the elastic!

Maya Angelou was interviewed by Oprah on her 70+ birthday. Oprah asked her what she thought of growing older.

And, there on television, she said it was 'exciting...'
Regarding body changes, she said there were many, occurring every day.....like her breasts. They seem to be in a race to see which will reach her waist, first.

The audience laughed so hard they cried. She is such a simple and honest woman, with so much wisdom in her words!

Maya Angelou said this:
'I've learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.'

'I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.'

'I've learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you'll miss them when they're gone from your life.'

'I've learned that making a 'living' is not the same thing as 'making a life.'

'I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.'

'I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher's mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw some things back....'


'I've learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision.'


'I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one..'

'I' ve learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back.'

'I've learned that I still have a lot to learn..'


'I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.'

How Dubai's dream sank in a sea of debt

That's the real bubble bust, which allot of people were predicting for Dubai to reach, after swallowing everyone's money. Click here to read more about it.

Last 3 Wishes

There is very instructive incident involving the life of Alexander, the Greek king.

Alexander, after conquering many kingdoms, was returning home. On the way, he fell ill and it took him to his death bed. With death staring him in his face, Alexander realized how his conquests, his great army, his sharp sword and all his wealth were of no consequence.

He now longed to reach home to see his mother's face and bid her his last adieu. But, he had to accept the fact that his sinking health would not permit Him to reach his distant homeland.

The mighty conqueror lay prostrate and pale, helplessly waiting to breathe his last. He called his generals and said, "I will depart from this world soon, I have three wishes, please carry them out without fail."

With tears flowing down their cheeks, the generals agreed to abide by their king's last wishes.

"My first desire is that," said Alexander, "My physicians alone must carry my coffin."

After a pause, he continued,

"Secondly, I desire that when my coffin is being carried to the grave, the path leading to the graveyard be strewn with gold, silver and precious stones which I have collected in my treasury."

The king felt exhausted after saying this. He took a minute's rest and continued.
"My third and last wish is that both my hands be kept dangling out of my coffin."

The people who had gathered there wondered at the king's strange wishes. But no one dare bring the question to their lips.
Alexander's favorite general kissed his hand and pressed them to his heart. "O king, we assure you that your wishes will all be fulfilled. But tell us why do you make such strange wishes?"

At this Alexander took a deep breath and said:
"I would like the world to know of the three lessons I have just learnt.

Lessons to learn from last 3 wishes of King Alexander...

"I want my physicians to carry my coffin because people should realize that no doctor can really cure any body. They are powerless and cannot save a person from the clutches of death. So let not people take life for granted..

The second wish of strewing gold, silver and other riches on the way to the graveyard is to tell People that not even a fraction of gold will come with me. I spent all my life earning riches but cannot take anything with me. Let people realize that it is a sheer waste of time to chase wealth.

And about my third wish of having my hands dangling out of the coffin, I wish people to know that I came empty handed into this world and empty handed I go out of this world."

With these words, the king closed his eyes. Soon he let death conquer him and breathed his last..

Eid Mubarak

Wishing you a very happy Eid-Al-Adha, May Allah shower you all with his choicest blessings.

Thank you petite

My best birthday gift was from my sister.

She called me & asked where is my office located (as she doesn't visit me as often despite our office buidling are oposit each other,) I told her & said open the door (because of security lock), and I did, she suprised me with her apperence & gifted me with baskin robbins's banana royal, in addition to a birthday card. I hugged her then introduced her to my co-workers, who few of them never met her in person.

I feel like crying, with joy. Two of my co-workers bought chocolates & shared it with others.

Certificate Of Attendance

Today, I recived a 'Certificate of Attendance' from one of the local chapter of profational organization in Oman, which I didn't attend.

I was suppose to attend for the seminar, which awarded 2 CPE hours, but I did not attend as I was filling ill, and I felt driving 20 mins to the avenue & back unkowing what will happen if I get worst.

Back to the topic, I told the manager who informed me the delivary of the certificate I didn't attend & she was aware of it as I have contact her. She said its ok. The worst, is that the chairman of the education committee for the local chapter, who have signed it is the Head of my department.

I have to inform him as its unathical to gain credit for something I didn't do or achive it.

Less then 34 hours

She got a phone call from one of the organizers to get some stuff for the event, which 30 guests are been invited & if some of the stuff have been delivered in the avenue; She responded that she wasn't notified by the host regarding the event or anything related to it.

She closed the phone & thanking God for not planning any arragement on that day.

Crazy Not Equal to Stupid

One truck driver was doing his usual delivery to IMH (Institute of mental health).

He discovered a flat tyre when he was about to go home. He jacked up the truck and took the flat tyre down.

When he was about to fix the spare tyre, he accidentally dropped all the bolts into the drain.. As he can't fish the bolts out, he started to panic.

One patient happened to walk past and asked the driver what happened.
The driver thought to himself, since there's nothing much he can do; he told the patient the whole incident

The patient laughed at him & said "can't even fix such a simple problem.... no wonder you are destined to be a truck driver..."

Here's what you can do, take one bolt each from the other 3 tyres and fix it onto this tyre. Then drive to the nearest workshop and replace the missing ones, easy as that" The driver was very impressed and asked "You're so smart but why are you here at the IMH?"

Patient replied: "Hello, I stay here because I'm crazy not STUPID!"

SCHOOLS -- 1957 vs. 2009

Enjoy the following scenarios how people react for same situation in deferent years:

Scenario:
Jack goes rabbit shooting before school, pulls into school parking lot with rifle in gun rack.

1957 - Vice Principal comes over, looks at Jack's rifle, goes to his car
and gets his rifle & chats with Jack about guns.

2009 - School goes into lock down, Star Force called, Jack hauled off to
jail and never sees his ute or gun again.. Counsellors called in for
traumatized students and teachers.

Scenario:
Johnny and Mark get into a fistfight after school.

1957 - Crowd gathers. Mark wins. Johnny and Mark shake hands and end up
buddies.

2009 - Police called, arrests Johnny and Mark. Charge them with assault,
both expelled even though Johnny started it. Both children go to anger
management programs for 3 months. School board hold meeting to impliment
bullying prevention programs

Scenario:
Robbie won't be still in class, disrupts other students.

1957 - Robbie sent to office and given 6 of the best by the Principal.
Returns to class, sits still and does not disrupt class again.

2009 - Robbie given huge doses of Ritalin. Becomes a zombie. Tested for
ADD. Robbie's parents get fortnightly disability payments and School gets
extra funding from state because Robbie has a disability.

Scenario :
Billy breaks a window in his neighbor's car and his Dad gives him a whipping with his belt.

1957 - Billy is more careful next time, grows up normal, goes to college,
and becomes a successful businessman.

2009 - Billy's dad is arrested for child abuse. Billy removed to foster
care and joins a gang. State psychologist tells Billy's sister that she
remembers being abused herself and their dad goes to prison.

Scenario :
Mark gets a headache and takes some aspirin to school.

1957 - Mark gets glass of water from Principal to take aspirin with.

2009 - Police called, Mark expelled from school for drug violations. Car
searched for drugs and weapons.

Scenario :
Pedro fails high school English.

1957 - Pedro goes to summer school, passes English and goes to college.

2009 - Pedro's cause is taken up by state. Newspaper articles appear
nationally explaining that teaching English as a requirement for
graduation is racist. AFRE files class action lawsuit against state
school system and Pedro's English teacher. English banned from core
curriculum. Pedro given diploma anyway but ends up mowing lawns for
a living because he cannot speak English.

Scenario :
Johnny takes apart leftover firecrackers from Guy Fawkes, puts them in a model airplane paint bottle, blows up a bullant nest.

1957 - Ants die.

2009- Star Force, Federal Police & Anti-terrorism Squad called. Johnny
charged with domestic terrorism, Feds investigate parents, siblings
removed from home, computers confiscated. Johnny's Dad goes on a terror
watch list and is never allowed to fly again.

Scenario :
Johnny falls while running during recess and scrapes his knee. He is found crying by his teacher, Mary.

Mary hugs him to comfort him.

1957 - In a short time, Johnny feels better and goes on playing.

2009 - Mary is accused of being a sexual predator and loses her job. She
faces 3 years in Prison. Johnny undergoes 5 years of therapy.

Express English Dictionary

Express English Dictionary from English to Arabic language @ http://www.expenglish.com/dic/

A Simple thing called marriage

A simple message from my friends, I thought of sharing with you:

A Simple thing called marriage……

‘When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50-60 percent, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr/Ms Right! If you ask most couples who are engaged why they’re getting married, they’ll say: ‘We’re in love.” this is the #1 mistake people make when they date.

Choosing a life partner should never be based on love (alone). Though this may sound not politically correct, there’s a profound truth here. Love (alone) is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: You can’t build a lifetime relationship on love alone. You need a lot more. Here are questions you must ask yourself if you’re serious about finding and keeping a life partner.

QUESTION #1:

Do we share a common life purpose? Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you’re married for 20 or 30 years, that’s a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose. Two things can happen in a marriage. You can grow together, or you can grow apart. 50 percent of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life - bottomline - and marry someone who wants the same thing.

QUESTION #2:

Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person? This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust! i. e. trust that I won’t get ‘punished’ or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.

QUESTION #3:

Is he/she a mensch? A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions. i) Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? ii) Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as ’someone who is always striving to be good and do the right thing’. ‘So, ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic?’ Usually, a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement. There are essentially two types of people in the world: People who are dedicated to personal growth and people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.

QUESTION #4:

How does he/she treat other people? The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure. Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self-absorbed? To measure this, think about the following: i) How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc? ii) How do they treat parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation? Do they show respect? If they don’t have gratitude for the people who have given them everything, you cannot expect that they’ll have gratitude for you - who can’t do nearly as much for them! iii) Do they gossip and speak badly about others? Someone who gossips cannot be someone who loves others. You can be sure that someone who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.

QUESTION #5:

Is there anything I’m hoping to change about this person after we’re married? Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to ‘improve’ them after they’re married. As a colleague of mine puts it, ‘You can probably expect someone to change after marriage … for the worse!’ If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them. In conclusion, dating doesn’t have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating, to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don’t want to find yourself in trouble because you didn’t do your homework.

So here comes the most important question: HOW WILL I KNOW IF I’VE MET THE PERSON I SHOULD MARRY?

The choice of a marriage partner should not be based on ‘I get a warm, wonderful feeling whenever we’re together and I want to have that warm wonderful feeling forever, so let’s go get married’. Feelings, as we have discussed, have no logic on their own. They need to be acknowledged, of course, but they need considerable assistance from your brain. Marriage means choosing the person you will spend the rest of your life with. This, as you may have guessed, is a very long time to spend with one person. This person will live with you, eat meals with you, sleep with you and go on vacation with you. More important yet, this person will share your children. You need to choose wisely. The decision should not be made based on feelings alone. You need to ask yourself some tough questions.

The decisions have to be made on solid considerations.

· Will this person be a good partner?

· Is she/he mature enough to put her own selfish desires aside to look out for what is best for the family?

· Is he prepared to be a good provider?

· What is his track record?

· Is he responsible enough to get a good job and keep it?

· Will this person be a good parent?

Can you stand the thought of your children turning out exactly like this person?

They will, you know. Children spend a lot of time with their parents and consequently pick up many or most of their parents’ character traits. You had better like your spouse’s traits a lot because you will be seeing them again in your children.

If something were to happen to you, would you completely trust this person alone, with the task of raising and forming your children? This is not a pleasant thought, but it is an important consideration. Not everyone dies at a ripe old age with great grandchildren gathered around the bed. Sometimes a parent dies and leaves young children in the care of the other parent. If you feel that you would need to be around to correct or lessen this person’s influence on your children, then you are considering the wrong person.

Does this person share your faith in God/ Spiritualism?

God does not give us children so that we can mould them into the coolest, most popular people in school. Our job is to make them responsible, humble, spiritual and balanced human beings. To do that, we need to raise them believing in God and or being spiritual. It is tough to do that if only one parent believes or is spiritual. Saying ‘This is right and that is wrong, and I want you to ignore Mommy until you are thirty-five does not work. Small children ask about eight million questions in a single day. The answers to those questions go a long way toward forming the kind of adults they will become. Who will be answering those questions for your children?

Feeling Rich

Today, my sister commented on something about been managed to for fuel, bills and other minor spending expences despite been broke & we are still thinking how we will manage to pay them on daily bases.

I told her, I really don't know, but somehow I feel rich inside me, and trying not to think about it at all.

It seems we been managing this way for long time, more then I can remember.

Ibrahim Al Abyadh

One of the most desapointing Arabic movies of the Egyption actor Ahmed Al Saah, which didn't have proper plot or story behind it.

I know 6 people who also got desapinted with movie too, despite the way they shot it was good quiality, I gave it 2/5 stars, despite others disagree with me on that.

Board

Woke up by 8:30 AM, still feeling hang over (not for drinking) from sleep, not used to sleep late like I used too.

Just finished my breakfast, which consisted of Fuol Mudamis; Lebanise bread and cup of Lepton tea with powdered genger & six tea spoons of suger.

I am lazily, watching 'The Women' on Star Movies, while sipping my tea.

Waiting for my baby sister to come over for launch then go for an Arabic movie with my siblings & cousins.

That is all for now, I'll catch up with other bits of my life later.

Oman Al Khair

I have been receiving over 5 emails from friends,and my member of family about Oman Al khair, non-profit organization, for charitible work in Oman.

The email details contains infomation about their activities, bank account details and contact details; even their location. I am not sure, if I can post the details online, because I haven't verified the details if it correct or not.

Manhood

I noticed two type of marriad men, either they are in a hurry to have kids as soon as they get marriad or enjoy their life for couple of years then have kids.

The men, is same family or saroundings feel its a compatition for their manhood, get their wives pragnant, that mean they are men, more kids in short time, he is more manly enough.

My personal view is, a man is not about his gender, but for me its about his ethics and personality. He can respect and support me in all ways and levels, above all respects him self & his family too, even towards my family.

Happy

I am glad for waking up and feeling happy, despite been ill for the past one week.
Last night, I slept late becaurse my mom woke me up while I was dousing off beside her, in order for me to go to sleep on my bed, it was not easy to get back to sleep, but when I slept away into it, my sister called, to make sure the house door is unlocked, as a result no more sleep.

I waited for my sister to arrive then we started chit chatting with our mom, until late, but managed to sleep well after that.

I am also happy about somethings have worked out well after months of worrying.

The funny thing, happened that a rummers had spread arround work, that I had malaria, because I came from Africa, and that wasn't in my mind at all.

Mama

Dear mom,
I am happy that you are back, we missed you allot.

Love,
Your daughter

Fake gentleman

How would you feel when you find out that your direct boss doesn't support you?

How do you feel when you find out your boss cretises you behind your back?

How do you feel that your boss is never been honest with you?

How will you react?

The above incident happened to close friends of mine, I was shocked to know how low their boss is, despite when he talks infront of them, he looks total gentlemen, although he is a monster.

DS TV in Middle East

While I was in Tanzania, I was hocked up with DS TV, a cable TV in Afria, it had nice english channels such as MNet series, Mnet Movies, HBO, etc.

I emailed them if they have an agent in Oman, they said "No", I am looking for an agent, if anyone knows one in Middle East, Dubai or Oman?

Determination

My domestic worker has impressed me last night, with her new skill; she was attempting to play Sudoko.

For the past few months, she was observing me playing it, it seems while I was away, trying to do it, I need to start teaching her and I know she will beat me in the game and I don't mind.

Kindle in Middle East

When will Kindle Wireless Reading Device (6" Display, U.S. & International Wireless, Latest Generation) be sold in Middle East? interesting it is available for East Africa market but us, no.

GlobalVoices - Oman

I just added news headlines from GlobalVoices related to Oman, my country. The articles are written by Bloggers from Oman and expatriates, showing a snapshot of events related to Oman.

The latest events held in month of October 2009 are:

Bloggers and H1N1 campaign, which started months before; in addition to the first Oman Twitter gathering known as Muscat Twestival.

Click here to follow twitter.com/muscattwestival.

Multiple phone numbers

Since Nawras started their service in Oman, allot of people tend to have to mobiles for OmanMobile and Nawras, I thought they are mad, but what will people do now? Have 6 mobiles for 6 sim cards or 3 mobiles with dual sim cards?

While I visited Tanzania ( Tz ), which has 4 mobile operating services, ZanTel ( part of Etisalat ); Zain; Tigo; and Vodacom ( part of Vodafone ); people tend to have 2 phones numbers.

One of my relative has one phone and 3 numbers, I end up trying to call each numbere trile & error until I hear the ring tone.

Oct 2009 - Jan 2010 Events

By end of Oct, my cousin had her 2nd born girl.
Wedding season has started from 1st week of Nov, i.e, from today, until end of Jan 2010.

All the brids or grooms are either my 1st, 2nd, 3rd, cousins, or nephews; so the girl has to dress up good.

I though most of the weddings will start from Dec 09, but I was wrong.

Beside, weddings other events will take place before the wedding, such bridal shower ( my first time to attend ), Hinna, etc.

Social and religius event coming up soon, such as Eid, Prophet Mohammed S.A.A.W's birthday and National.

Off to work

Back to work and allot of people were telling me, "Why didn't you tell us you are going on leave?", "I didn't know you were on your leave until I emailed you.", "It was a long vacation, we didn't know if you were coming back."

That's how people miss me, because they needed my support and my co-workers were praying for others not to contact them until I am back.

I just sat and relaxed with a smile, I am back but my rules haven't change, "Fill in the form & email it to me."

Back to reality

I am back from my vacation and unhealthy food, i.e. my favorite Indomie noodles and AMP energy drink, in addition not eating for long hours, I know I am killing my body after 28 days of fresh and healthy food.

I need to eat well, and start going to the gym.

Mzungu is in town

While I was in Tanzania, on my vacation, allot of people were calling me Mzungu because I was speaking English more then Swahili. It bugged me at first, as Mzungu means white skin person from Europe and I am an Arab, not even close to be a Mzungu.

Now anyone who talks Western language and not Swahili is known as Mzungu in Africa.

Flavours of life

Today for the first time I came across new Masafi food product ' Masafi Gourment ', sweet chilli flavoured chips, I never knew that Masafi the UAE most known for meniral and flavoured water.

During Ramadhan, I have been hunting for 'Rawabi Up', salted laban made of fresh cow's milk, a product of Al Rawabi brand, also UAE made product, which was out of stock as allot of people were consuming it during that I thought it was no longer produced or not sold in Oman, but managed to get it today.

Suddnly AMP, an energy drink was out of stock in near by my place. I thought it also been stopped, but managed to get a hold of one near by my work place, which was my last option, I hope Pepsi - Oman doesn't stop getting it from Jordan.

Since last ten of Holy month of Ramadhan I have been addicted to two things, Coconut drink and Ferrero Rocher, I can't stop my self from having it everyday.

Yes, I have been talking about food and drinks, I will miss them for a while. Oh I will forgot to mention the junk foods.

Chemical Symbols On Plastic

Did you happen to notice a triangle symbol on the bottom of a plastic bottle with a number inside it?

Do you know what the number stands for?

THE NUMBER TELLS YOU THE CHEMICAL MAKE UP OF THE PLASTIC.....

1) Polyethylene terephalate (PET)

2) High density polyethylene (HDPE)

3) Unplasticised polyvinyl chloride (UPVC) or Plasticised polyvinyl chloride (PPVC)

4) Low density polyethylene LDPE

5) Polypropylene (PP)

6) Polystyrene (PS) or Expandable polystyrene (EPS)

7) Other, including nylon and acrylic

What you aren't told is that many of the plastics used are toxic and the chemicals used to create a plastic can leach out of the plastic and into the food / drink.

Think about it, how many times have you or a friend said

"I don't like this, it taste like the plastic bottle ..... "

THAT'S BECAUSE YOU ARE TASTING THE PLASTIC The WORST ONES are Nos: 3, 6, and 7 !!!

DO NOT USE THESE NUMBERS if stated at the bottom of the bottle) !!!

Check out this chart that breaks down the plastic, its uses and chemical makeup

(I find #7 a little scary)

http://www.epd.gov.hk/epd/english/environmentinhk/waste/guide_ref/guide_plascod3.html

AVOID re-using plastic bottles RIGHT AWAY!!!

Bye Tanzania

It's a sad day for me, my vication coming to an end, leaving to my home from Tanzania, after 28 days between Zanzibar, Dar Esalaam and Arusha.

I feel part of my soul is been taken from me, after sending time with my relatives and extended family members. Meeting new people from Tanzania, USA, and Germany.

I will write more about my trip, hospitality of the people and post some photos from my phone and my sister's camera.

Children and Gun

Babysitting Hazards

Coca Cola Vs Diat Cola

Elke Dieterich

Elke Dieterich, a german woman I met in Zanzibar. she is a manager without borders, after joining Manager Ohnegrenzen. She took time of her career as Marketing manager in Germany to  be a volunteer in Tanzania for three months.

Her blog is elke-dieterich.de, in German language, but you can read it in English, with little help of Google Translator tool.

I am still enjoying my vication in Tanzania - East Africa.

To Be 6 Again...

A man was sitting on the edge of the bed, observing his wife, looking at herself in the mirror. Since her birthday was not far off he asked what she'd like to have for her Birthday.

'I'd like to be six again', she replied, still looking in the mirror.

On the morning of her Birthday, he arose
early, made her a nice big bowl of Lucky Charms, and then took her t o Six Flags theme park. What a day!

He put her on every ride in the park; the Death Slide, the Wall of Fear, and the Screaming Monster. Five hours later they staggered out of the theme park. Her head was reeling and her stomach felt upside d own.

He then took her to a McDonald's where he ordered her a Happy Meal with extra fries and a chocolate shake.

Then it was off to a movie, popcorn, a soda pop, and her favorite candy, M&M's. What a fabulous adventure! Finally she wobbled home with her husband and collapsed into bed exhausted. He leaned over his wife with a big smile and lovingly asked, 'Well Dear, what was it like being six again??'

Her eyes slowly opened and her expression suddenly changed. 'I meant my dress size, you dumb ass!'

The moral of the story: Even when a man is listening, he's gonna get it wrong.

Live Your Day

To make money we lose our health,

And then to restore our health we lose our Money…

We live as if we are never going to die,

And we die as if we never Lived.

How to educatate our society?

An article in Arabic.

Scientific Explanation of Halal Vs Haram

Islamic Naqaab Vs Medical Mask

The Western countries made fun of the naqaab (Islamic Burqa/Veil).
France President Sarcozy had issued a ban on the Viel(Naqaab).

And what’s happening today, entire world is wearing naqaab or mask, because of H1N1 virus.

Is such a sudden attack of swine flu a coincidence? No way.

The errant boy and the Catholic School?

Until a child tells you what they are thinking, we can't even begin to imagine how their mind is working....

Little Zachary was doing very badly in math. His parents had tried everything...tutors, mentors, flash cards, special learning centers. In short, everything they could think of to help his math. Finally, in a last ditch effort, they took Zachary down and enrolled him in the local Catholic school.

After the first day, little Zachary came homewith a very serious look on his face.
He didn't even kiss his mother hello. Instead, he went straight to his room and started studying. Books and papers were spread out all over the room and little Zachary was hard at work. His mother was amazed. She called him down to dinner. To her shock, the minute he was done, he marched back to his room without a word, and in no time, he was back hitting the books as hard as before. This went on for some time, day after day, while the mother tried to understand what made all the difference. Finally, little Zachary brought home his report Card..

He quietly laid it on the table, went up to his room and hit the books.

With great trepidation, His Mom looked at it and to her great surprise, Little Zachary got an 'A' in math. She could no longer hold her curiosity.. She went to his room and said, 'Son, what was it?

Was it the nuns? Little Zachary looked at her and shook his head, no.. 'Well, then,' she replied, Was it the books, the discipline, the structure, the uniforms? WHAT WAS IT?'

Little Zachary looked at her and said, 'Well, on the first day of school when I saw that guy nailed to the plus sign, I knew they weren't fooling around.'

SARDAR RETURNS

Sardar: My mobile bill how much?
Call centre girl: sir, just dial 123to know current bill status
Sardar: Stupid, not CURRENT BILL my MOBILE BILL.



Sardar: I think that girl is deaf..
Friend: How do u know?
Sardar: I told I Love her, but she said her chappals are new



Friend: I got a brand new Ford IKON for my wife!
Sardar: Wow!!! That's an unbelievable exchange offer!!!



Teacher: Which is the oldest animal in world?
Sardar: ZEBRA
Teacher: How?
Sardar: Bcoz it is Black & White



Judge: Don't U have shame? It is d 3rd time U R coming to court..
Sardar to judge: U R coming daily, don't U have shame?



Sardar attending an interview in Software Company.
Manager: Do U know MS Office?
Sardar: If U give me the address I will go there sir.


Sardar in airplane going 2 Bombay .. While its landing he shouted: " Bombay ... Bombay "
Air hostess said: "B silent."
Sardar: "Ok.. Ombay. Ombay"


Teacher: "What is common between JESUS, KRISHNA , RAM, GANDHI and BUDHA?"
Sardar: "All are born on government holidays...!!!


Sardar: Miss, u called 2 my mobile?
Teacher: Me? No, why?
Sardar: Yesterday I saw in my mobile- 1 Miss Call".
(Had never thought of it)


Sir: What is difference between Orange and Apple?
Sardar: Color of Orange is orange, but color of Apple is not APPLE

Meaningful

TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.

A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, 'Public Utilities Board.' There was silence. She repeated, 'PUB.' There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she heard a lady's voice, 'Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is.'

Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just 'hello' instead of 'PUB'.

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NO POINTING FINGERS

A man asked his father-in-law, 'Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?'

The father-in-law answered in a smile, 'Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you.'

We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.

If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.

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CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?

A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested 'I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one.' The SDU officer said, 'Your requirements, please.' 'Oh, good looking, polite, humorous, sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need a companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest..' The officer listened carefully and replied, 'I understand, you need television.'

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.

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NO OVERPOWERING

Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that 'It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character.'

It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectations on changing the spouse's character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.

It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations. .

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RIGHT SPEECH

There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that 'A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation.' Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.

A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, 'Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school.' On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, 'Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker.' She answered, 'You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you.'

Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.

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PERSONAL PERCEPTION

Different people have different perceptions. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home, a boy commented, 'Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey?' Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, 'The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?' Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.

Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, 'How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman.' The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, 'Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you.' Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.

It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.

Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..

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BE PATIENT

This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.

Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, 'Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck.' Then he asked, 'but when are my fingers going to grow back?' The father went home & committed suicide.

Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or you wish to take revenge. Think first before you lose your patience with someone you love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.

People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.

'Good Life starts only when you stop wanting a better One'

'Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away '

هل أعلمه الأدب أم أتعلم منه قلة الأدب

في كل صباح يقف عند كشكه الصغير ليلقي عليه تحية الصباح ويأخذ صحيفته المفضلة ويدفع ثمنها وينطلق ولكنه لا يحظى إطلاقا برد من البائع على تلك التحية،

وفي كل صباح أيضا يقف بجواره شخص آخر يأخذ صحيفته المفضلة ويدفع ثمنها ولكن صاحبنا لا يسمع صوتا لذلك الرجل،

وتكررت اللقاءات أمام الكشك بين الشخصين كل يأخذ صحيفته ويمضي في طريقه، وظن صاحبنا أن الشخص الآخر أبكم لا يتكلم،

إلى أن جاء اليوم الذي وجد ذلك الأبكم يربت على كتفه وإذا به يتكلم متسائلا: لماذا تلقي التحية على صاحب الكشك؟ فلقد تابعتك طوال الأسابيع الماضية.. وكنت في معظم الأيام ألتقي بك وأنت تشتري صحيفتك اليومية؟؟

فقال الرجل: وما الغضاضة في أن ألقي عليه التحية؟

فقال: وهل سمعت منه ردا طوال تلك الفترة؟

فقال صاحبنا: لا.

قال: إذن لم تلقي التحية على رجل لا يردها؟

فسأله صاحبنا: وما السبب في أنه لا يرد التحية برأيك؟

فقال: أعتقد أنه وبلا شك رجل قليل الأدب، وهو لا يستحق أساسا أن تُلقى عليه التحية.

فقال صاحبنا: إذن هو برأيك قليل الأدب؟

قال: نعم.

قال صاحبنا: هل تريدني أن أتعلم منه قلة الأدب أم أعلمه الأدب؟

فسكت الرجل لهول الصدمة.. ورد بعد طول تأمل: ولكنه قليل الأدب وعليه أن يرد التحية.

فأعاد صاحبنا سؤاله: هل تريدني أن أتعلم منه قلة الأدب أم أعلمه الأدب؟

ثم عقب قائلاً: يا سيدي أياً كان الدافع الذي يكمن وراء عدم رده لتحيتنا فإن مايجب أن نؤمن به أن خيوطنا يجب أن تبقى بأيدينا لا أن نسلمها لغيرنا،

ولو صرت مثله لا ألقي التحية على من ألقاه لتمكن هو مني وعلمني سلوكه الذي تسميه قلة أدب، وسيكون صاحب السلوك الخاطئ هو الأقوى وهو المسيطر، وستنتشر بين الناس أمثال هذه الأنماط من السلوك الخاطئ،

ولكن حين أحافظ على مبدئي في إلقاء التحية على من ألقاه أكون قد حافظت على ما أؤمن به،

وعاجلا أم آجلا سيتعلم سلوك حسن الخلق،

ثم أردف قائلاً: ألست معي بأن السلوك الخاطئ يشبه أحيانا السم أو النار؟.. فإن ألقينا على السم سماً زاد أذاه وإن زدنا النار ناراً أو حطباً زدناها اشتعالا،

صدقني يا أخي أن القوة تكمن في الحفاظ على استقلال كل منا، ونحن حين نصبح متأثرين بسلوك أمثاله نكون قد سمحنا لسمهم أو لخطئهم أو لقلة أدبهم كما سميتها أن تؤثر فينا وسيعلموننا ما نكرهه فيهم وسيصبح سلوكهم نمطا مميزا لسلوكنا وسيكونون هم المنتصرين في حلبة الصراع اليومي بين الصواب والخطأ،

ولمعرفة الصواب.. تأمل معي جواب النبي عليه الصلاة والسلام على ملك الجبال حين سأله: يا محمد أتريد أن أطبق عليهم الأخشبين؟

فقال: لا.. إني أطمع أن يخرج الله من أصلابهم من يعبد الله، اللهم اهد قومي فإنهم لا يعلمون.

لم تنجح كل سبل الإساءة من قومه عليه الصلاة والسلام أن تعدل سلوكه من الصواب إلى الخطأ! مع أنه بشر.. يتألم كما يتألم البشر، ويحزن ويتضايق إذا أهين كما يتضايق البشر،

ولكن ما يميزه عن بقية البشر هذه المساحة الواسعة من التسامح التي تملكها نفسه، وهذا الإصرار الهائل على الاحتفاظ بالصواب مهما كان سلوك الناس المقابلين سيئا أو شنيعا أو مجحفا أو جاهلا،



ويبقى السؤال قائماً: حين نقابل أناسا قليلي الأدب هل نتعلم منهم قلة أدبهم أم نعلمهم الأدب؟
في كل صباح يقف عند كشكه الصغير ليلقي عليه تحية الصباح ويأخذ صحيفته المفضلة ويدفع ثمنها وينطلق ولكنه لا يحظى إطلاقا برد من البائع على تلك التحية،

وفي كل صباح أيضا يقف بجواره شخص آخر يأخذ صحيفته المفضلة ويدفع ثمنها ولكن صاحبنا لا يسمع صوتا لذلك الرجل،

وتكررت اللقاءات أمام الكشك بين الشخصين كل يأخذ صحيفته ويمضي في طريقه، وظن صاحبنا أن الشخص الآخر أبكم لا يتكلم،

إلى أن جاء اليوم الذي وجد ذلك الأبكم يربت على كتفه وإذا به يتكلم متسائلا: لماذا تلقي التحية على صاحب الكشك؟ فلقد تابعتك طوال الأسابيع الماضية.. وكنت في معظم الأيام ألتقي بك وأنت تشتري صحيفتك اليومية؟؟

فقال الرجل: وما الغضاضة في أن ألقي عليه التحية؟

فقال: وهل سمعت منه ردا طوال تلك الفترة؟

فقال صاحبنا: لا.

قال: إذن لم تلقي التحية على رجل لا يردها؟

فسأله صاحبنا: وما السبب في أنه لا يرد التحية برأيك؟

فقال: أعتقد أنه وبلا شك رجل قليل الأدب، وهو لا يستحق أساسا أن تُلقى عليه التحية.

فقال صاحبنا: إذن هو برأيك قليل الأدب؟

قال: نعم.

قال صاحبنا: هل تريدني أن أتعلم منه قلة الأدب أم أعلمه الأدب؟

فسكت الرجل لهول الصدمة.. ورد بعد طول تأمل: ولكنه قليل الأدب وعليه أن يرد التحية.

فأعاد صاحبنا سؤاله: هل تريدني أن أتعلم منه قلة الأدب أم أعلمه الأدب؟

ثم عقب قائلاً: يا سيدي أياً كان الدافع الذي يكمن وراء عدم رده لتحيتنا فإن مايجب أن نؤمن به أن خيوطنا يجب أن تبقى بأيدينا لا أن نسلمها لغيرنا،

ولو صرت مثله لا ألقي التحية على من ألقاه لتمكن هو مني وعلمني سلوكه الذي تسميه قلة أدب، وسيكون صاحب السلوك الخاطئ هو الأقوى وهو المسيطر، وستنتشر بين الناس أمثال هذه الأنماط من السلوك الخاطئ،

ولكن حين أحافظ على مبدئي في إلقاء التحية على من ألقاه أكون قد حافظت على ما أؤمن به،

وعاجلا أم آجلا سيتعلم سلوك حسن الخلق،

ثم أردف قائلاً: ألست معي بأن السلوك الخاطئ يشبه أحيانا السم أو النار؟.. فإن ألقينا على السم سماً زاد أذاه وإن زدنا النار ناراً أو حطباً زدناها اشتعالا،

صدقني يا أخي أن القوة تكمن في الحفاظ على استقلال كل منا، ونحن حين نصبح متأثرين بسلوك أمثاله نكون قد سمحنا لسمهم أو لخطئهم أو لقلة أدبهم كما سميتها أن تؤثر فينا وسيعلموننا ما نكرهه فيهم وسيصبح سلوكهم نمطا مميزا لسلوكنا وسيكونون هم المنتصرين في حلبة الصراع اليومي بين الصواب والخطأ،

ولمعرفة الصواب.. تأمل معي جواب النبي عليه الصلاة والسلام على ملك الجبال حين سأله: يا محمد أتريد أن أطبق عليهم الأخشبين؟

فقال: لا.. إني أطمع أن يخرج الله من أصلابهم من يعبد الله، اللهم اهد قومي فإنهم لا يعلمون.

لم تنجح كل سبل الإساءة من قومه عليه الصلاة والسلام أن تعدل سلوكه من الصواب إلى الخطأ! مع أنه بشر.. يتألم كما يتألم البشر، ويحزن ويتضايق إذا أهين كما يتضايق البشر،

ولكن ما يميزه عن بقية البشر هذه المساحة الواسعة من التسامح التي تملكها نفسه، وهذا الإصرار الهائل على الاحتفاظ بالصواب مهما كان سلوك الناس المقابلين سيئا أو شنيعا أو مجحفا أو جاهلا،



ويبقى السؤال قائماً: حين نقابل أناسا قليلي الأدب هل نتعلم منهم قلة أدبهم أم نعلمهم الأدب؟