8 Little Known Factors Damaging Your Success

The following article also applies to me too, the factors which is damaging our success right now to achieve something and become great leaders. Read more about it here.

Happy New year

Today It's the first day of year 2014, thr year 2013 gone very fast, like a blinkof an eye, any achievements, yes and no. All of regrets and personal disappointments, my negative charisma overcome the positive ones, I won't lie to my self and pretend nothing has happened, it's black and white, I can't ever take it back.

I came across people seemed to finally show their claws, and their judgements is sickening.

I hope that this year will be better off for me and my family, the only truly family I have, and I love them.

For the love of a woman

I was watching the movie, The Ghost Writer, while i was flying back to home, Adam Lang (the character) said the  quote, which i can't recall nor find it on the internet, it's about he became politics not because he loved it, but for the love of a woman.

The quote had sticked me, of two men who truly loved their wives and been with them and beside them. The two women had cancer, one passed away and the other one is going under treatment. Both of their husbands beside them, feeding, giving their treatment and supporting them, above all, not willing to part from them to live normal life.

The two women are my late mother and my Aunt, and the two men are my late father and my Uncle. I head the story of how my late father was sitting beside my mother and caring about her from people who aren't direct family, but I saw how my Uncle taking care of my own Aunt, and my sister told my Aunt, "I wish to have a husband who is loving and caring in sickness and health, like your husband."

My Uncle has strong faith that she's get cured. The same man, had a surgery during my visit, couldn't part from his wife and asked her to spend the night in the hospital with him, as he was too scared she falls ill and not been beside her.

That's how some men can do anything for the love of a woman, to keep them selves and other alive.

Happy

I am glad for waking up and feeling happy, despite been ill for the past one week.
Last night, I slept late becaurse my mom woke me up while I was dousing off beside her, in order for me to go to sleep on my bed, it was not easy to get back to sleep, but when I slept away into it, my sister called, to make sure the house door is unlocked, as a result no more sleep.

I waited for my sister to arrive then we started chit chatting with our mom, until late, but managed to sleep well after that.

I am also happy about somethings have worked out well after months of worrying.

The funny thing, happened that a rummers had spread arround work, that I had malaria, because I came from Africa, and that wasn't in my mind at all.

Mama

Dear mom,
I am happy that you are back, we missed you allot.

Love,
Your daughter

Hammudi

Its an Arabic song performed by the Iraqi artist Majid Al-Muhandis, in his latest 2009 album.

'Hammudi' is a nickname for the name 'Mohammed', I dedicated the song to my beloved and favorate nephew, who I love so much and made our house more life then ever.

"Allah, I am fasting"

Woke up this morning kind of good mood, despite lack of sleep because my daily plan and feeling feverish since 2nd day of Ramadhan.

I picked her up as I have been doing since last week, she greets us with "Hi" and we respond with "Wa Alaikum As'alaam," its been ever she doesn't want to get it or chose to ignore us for not saying "Assalamu Alaikum," the proper Islamic greeting, we feel she doesn't have any sign of been a Muslim, just wearing the Abaya and Sheylah (black head gear or a scurf) means she comply with it as a Muslim.

My daily plan is two hours nap before Magreb prayer i.e. Before breaking the fast plus sleeping late after midnight as performing some prayers then getting up to have Suhoor, my last meal before fasting then praying Fajr the first prayer of the day, and sleep for two hours, before going to work.

Yay

I am so happy today, had a great time with my extended family, remembered the oldy days and shared some with the new generation of nieces and nephews about their parents.

We drifted apart because of .... I think we should forget the past, and enjoy the present and plan for the future, the bright one, have faith in God, have faith in what it is hiden is good, its better.

I am greatfull for the people who care about me, guide me in the right path.

Back to my topic, I happy for the re-connection.

I am watching the first season of "Pushing Daisies", and I love it.

I feel like crying

I have allot of pain in my heart, not phisicaly but emotional, I feel my rights have been ripped off because a man (who is the suppose to represent me) thinks other person (who made a mistake and guilty) has more rights then I am despite logically I have 100% right.

What to say when you don't have a man to back you up and support you. Where is the eithics, moral, religion, etc.

Yes, I am back with negative thoughts, which I am not proud of, I wanted to come back with something good & pleasent.

Off the topic, planning to get off facebook for good, seen things, which makes me feel I want to puke. I may be looked at as a backward, but I am proud of who am I.

Blogger / facebook / Twitter

Before starting reading this post, I want to say that I previously wrote another post about bloggers from Oman, but the mobile browser accidentally closed, and nothing was saved. So I will post it another day.

I used to enjoy to be a blogger until facebook came and stole a bit of my time, but will Twitter is driving people into twitt their day-to-day actions and events, blogging became much less and less.

I started posting more about what has been shared with me by my relatives & friends, even from Google reader, since micro blogging taking most of my time, although I reduced to twitt by 75%. I came across good Arabic stuff, I may post them, so my apologies in advance to the non-Arabic readers. I have an interesting Article about charity in Arabic, and I'll try to get someone to translate it in English, it had a big effect on me as a person and I wish it we all adopted such concept.

I have allot of things I want to share in my own words, what I mean by that, not re-shared articles, etc, I just can not organise my thoughts.

That's all for now.

Waswaas

When I am angry, I get waswaas (whispers from the Shaytaan) to pour all my anger in writing.

Now, I am controlling my self. Thank God for that.

No comment

I am a bit frustrated about things, which does not effecting me personally, but religiously. I am trying not to post, as people from other religions as well as countries may get offended but I have just that they are the only direct example.

I just realized that some and not all Muslims getting married to non-Abrahamic religions, its didn't start now or the current generation, but its been there for generations before I was even born. I realized it may be either lack of faith in God i.e. Iman.

The Iman has 6 articles:
1. Belief in God (Allah), the one and only one worthy of all worship (tawhid).
2. Belief in the Angels (mala'ika).
3. Belief in the Books (kutub) sent by God (including the Qur'an).
4. Belief in all the Prophets (nabi) and Messengers (rusul) sent by God.
5. Belief in the Day of Judgment (qiyama) and in the Resurrection (life after death).
6. Belief in Destiny (Fate) (qadar) (Shia divine justice).

The Qur'an stated about marriage, but it seems some of the Muslims either they lack of guidance or they don't have the faith.

I personally know a woman who follows an unabrahamic religion, who got married to Muslim man in Islamic country, the marriage ceremony was held privately and in both religions with the blessing of both family, I was shocked when I found out.

People may say, it's their life, but as far as I know, they are living in sin. Once an Arab and Muslim woman told me she would agree to marry man, who follows a non-abrahamic religion and she may practice his religion as long as she doesn't belive in it, it's just acting.

That't all for now, let me move to another topic , RT @amjad248: http://tinyurl.com/d5fbal - Omani creates robots out of junk.

RT ~ ReTwit.

Clean up day

Monday, was a day for me to clear up my inbox (email) from all the junk mails & forwarding from friends and co-workers.

I managed to delete nearly 1000 mails, which weren't relevant to work and some of them I sent it to my personal email in order to post it at my beloved journal to share it with you.

At some point I wanted to keep some of the religious mails but I felt its been there for over a year and I won't read it.


I attended an advanced related course from Tuesday to Thursday, which was good for me, had brainstorm of some ideas related to work.


Friday, as a day I went to have lunch at my Auntie's place and had a good time with my cousins, I joined them later in the evening for coffee at the The Coffee Bean & Tea Leaf in Al Bahja mall, the first outlet in Oman.

Most of the people used to go to Al Bahja mall because of the movie cinema and kids play section, but since last year when Costa Coffee opened it's outlet, more people started going. Now many people are expected to go, they need more proper restaurants, i mean beside fast food franchises.


After coming back from the mall, the movie 'Freedom Writers' on DVD. It's a good movie, which inspired me too, they fought their battle and changed their lives by writing and how a teacher helped them to get it over with it and supporting them to reach their dreams.

Their dreams became reality via 'The Freedom Writers Diary: How a Teacher and 150 Teens Used Writing to Change Themselves and the World Around Them' , and I will go and look for the book if it's available in the local bookstore or in the neighborhood country or I'll order it online.

The movie has inspired me to read and write. I'm trying to write more positive way.


Few months ago, I came across wonderful online journal known as Hegab Rehab, which the author mostly post about the styles of Hegabs /Hejabs and accessories for Muslims women wear it and known part of Muslim woman dress code. Another journal 'Chasing Jannah', which is written by a Muslim woman.


The Omani community has been promised for the past few months that one of the most popular fast food franchise, known as Burger King will be back to operate in Oman. Up to now, the reserved space is empty and no signs of it's going to exists. Read more about it here were trying to figure out why it was closed at the first place.


The 'dark side of Dubai' brought you by UAE community blog.

Yes, I made a mistake

Two incidents happend to me yesterday, I learnt something from it, I learnt to accept my mistakes & admit it as well as confrunt & apologise to whom it consurned. I also learned who really genuine & who is not.

The Aunty Zahra called me in the morning, told me that I didn't inform her I was picking up Salma despite she doesn't have any objection to for Salma to be with me, I apologized to her and admited for my irrisponsible action and asured her it won't happen again, she justified her reasons for telling me that and I agreed with her, I respect her more then ever that she didn't waste the time and called me within less then one hour since I picked up Salma, I aknowledge her careness.


Another incedint happend in the evening of the samr day while I went to visit one of my relatives. I walked in the room and greeted two people (thier grade are as my parents) out of three and I didn't reaise I didn't greet the third person (whose like my sister) and walked out of the room.

It seems the 1st & the 3rd persons commented about my action towards the third person. So the 2nd person told them that she will talk to me when she sees me, they refused but she insisted.

The 2nd person called me later at night and told me about my action, I told her I didn't realise that and apologised as I didn't mean to ignore or disrespect the 3rd person and she understood and accepted my version of the story as saw how I looked while greeting her. I was shocked that no one had alart me at the same moment or tell me what I did was wrong by confronting me at the same time.

The above incidents made me realised how simple action can be positively or negatively been translated by people.


Note: Names are not real, it has been changed to protect people's privacy.


From Global news, today, people globally celebrating 'Earth Hour', it's an ECO friendly hour, the world switch off their lights, i.e. no using electrisity for one hour, which means no light polution for one hour. Correct me if I am wrong, from 8:30 PM to 9:30PM and some not all cities are perticipated in this Eco event.

Move it away

While I was at the mall with my sister and cousins killing time until our delayed appointment came arround, an incident had happend or more of an action my cousin did, she picked up someone's ice cream's cup from the empty table and trashed it inside the nearest bin, while the rest of us moved the chairs towards us inorder to sit.

After we were seated, my cousin was telling her sister if she should pick up an empty pepar bag from the floor beside her, her sister critisaised her and sugested to pick up all the trash from the flour. My cousin said something her father told her, "If you see something on the floor and you think someone may fall because of it, pick it up or move it out of the way, or it will back fire on you." I agreed wirh her for what her father told her.

While I am typing the above sentence I remembered an incident happend with me, which actually happend yesterday while I was at the hair saloon that's similer to my cousin's action, the hair dresser was busy setting up my sister's hair some hair accessories were falling on the floor, I started picking them up on her behalf as she couldn't because she's 8 months pregnent, she didn't ask me to do so, but I felt like helping her. She was supprised for my action and told me not to bother but I couldn't. She's gave her time for us then to rest.

All I can say, that both of us had some same principles that we follow, which our religion advised us to do the same.

While I am..

I am writing this post while I am waiting for my turn at hair saloon. Its Thursday, the weekend in Oman, the day were all the hair saloons are packed & fully booked because of weddings receptions. Most of the weddings take place on Wends & Thurs.

Back to my topic, I am busy brawsing & posting between Twitter & facebook beside blogging, it's my way to kill time & not to get board, the cold of board gets in my vain prity fast, thanks to broadband mobile i.e. 3G+, I don't get board.

Tragic

You feel happy when you see people worship God in proper manner as per his 'Sunnah' or 'trobben path' in plain english (as per Wikipedia), but you get disappointed when you see or hear the same people the way they do things or in other words their actions are extreemly diverted from Islam.

This is not something minor, its a tragic, been Muslim is not an easy task, its to practice is the chalange to keep the mind & faith as well as actions in same / parallel streams.

From time to time, a person should question his/ her self about his faith to God, its like reviewing or auditing your self (self environmental check.) I consider it healthy.

Lets talk

I need to talk, spell out alot of things, feeling not bit of my self, feeling like the world arround me falling apart.

No I am kidding, I am happy for the things turn out to be, have people love me and care about me all the time, without so called friends, I wouldn't have been here.

I am trying to write something meaningful to my self, trying to expend my horizon of knowledge and social network, I won't lie to my self that I now because of my self, no I am here because of God/ you/ him /her.

Good bye for now, thanks for your time.

Lazy to write

I want to share with you'll allot of things, but too lazy to type. I'll push my self to write what been happening arround me since last Feb 2009.

Ok, let me start about one of my weekends dated back to the midnight of 20th Feb, my phone alarm rang, I woke up (jumbed out of my skin) and picked up the phone, a reminder showed up 'Baba's birthday' I vividly smiled and read Surat Alfatihah for his soul and went back to sleep. At the evening, my sister and I were driving down town and we started recalling my late dad's gesture and his unforgettable sentences. God bless his Soul.


On 24th of Feb, the next weekend, I went with my sister, cousin and her niece who is one and half years of age, to one of international Pizza franchise, the girl who was trying to imitate her Aunt my eating with fork but couldn't pick up the salads with it, ends up removing the napkin from arround her nack, stating rebalient against aticate (she is a kid), but she made my day with her smile.


My last weekend was on 5th of March, my cousin got married, as the Aqd or religious marriage ceremony was at the Masjid been held by the men. I cried when I got the message from her brother that its over she became offically 'Mrs' and ended the lifecylce of 'Miss'. I called and wished her then met her at the saloon with the rest of the female members.

Wedding reception took place in the evening and everyone looked outstanding specially my sister and I. The brideamaids looks good too and managed well despite one day rehearsals or in the correct words few hours only.


I was planning to get the BB Bold, but the it was out of stock in all the stores of my mobile operator. I've changed my plans to get one until the 2nd half of the year, as I need to spend my money on something more importent.


One day, I drove to an offsite ATM machine, my sister got down and when she came back, she was laughing, she said "Also the mutawa flirt with Nasheed," it turned out a religious man who had long beard was flirting in a religious way.


Friendi Mobile will soon be on air in Oman, now the booking for numbers for free is available via friendimobile.om and various locations since 09-Mar-09, but the site booking has been a problem for too many visitors. I tried several times since 09-Mar-09 to book for one, but no luck, too many technical problems.

However, the CEO of Friendi Mobile been communicating with people via the local forums, such as English Sabla and Omanforum, I thank Muscati and arun for informing me about it via Twitter.


UAE may follow to ban YouTube after Pakistan in February 2008 and Bangladesh 1st week of March 2009.


The world Celebrating Birth of the Prophet Muhammad (ASW), which occurs in Rabi' al-awwal, the third month in the Islamic calendar, and defer from one country to another depending on the visibility of moon and when the new Islamic calander started.


That's all for now.

I'll try to keep updating you'll as soon as I am free to type.

Lost with movies

I have some bits and bytes to share it with you'll thanks to different sources I refer too.

Movies watched in theatres January - February 2009

• Asif Ala Alezaaj (Arabic)
• The Tale of Despereaux (English)
• Seven Pounds (English)
• Slumdog Millionaire (English)
• Billu (Indian)

I lost interest in watching movies as I get board quickly or the events are too slow. It’s not catchy despite the script and performance is good/ outstanding. I feel I could do more things then sitting for 1hr 30mins to 3hrs 30min in front of the screen.

New Drugs
Drug addicts in Iran fiund a new drug, which is less costly comparing to opium, heroin and hashish, the new drug are Toads.

Why Toads are cheep? They say, they can raise them at home and most of the addicts are jobless.


Teddy Stoddard
Today, I found an email been dropped off by my friend titled 'Nice Story', its about Teddy Stoddard who was a troubled boy and the teacher who turned his life around and became DR. Theodore F. Stoddard, M.D.

It turned out, Teddy Stoddard or DR. Theodore F. Stoddard, M.D. is fictional character, but the story is wide-spread in different languages thanks to the internet revolution.


Train Ride
Three year old kid dorve the train for half an hour in NewYork and passed 7 stations before he was stopped.


Who's Birthday today?
Times of Oman, an Omani English newspaper celebrates its 34th birthday, the other side, UAE national blogger Osama celebrates his 5th year of bloggering his Osama.ae.


'SmartRoamer'
Qatar Telecom launches 'SmartRoamer' for Nawras customers as well as other Qtel Group customers. The 1st phase within the five AGCC states (excluding Bahrain) single rate to call back home and discounts in other services.


New blogs
I came acroess several Arabic and English blogs, from Oman and arround the world. I will post some of them when I get time.